Direct Approach & Indirect Approach

The question most guys ask is, “should I approach her directly or indirectly”.  Some dating coach will tell you that guys should approach a indirectly, but some will tell you that direct is the way to go.  So, which is better?

From my perspective, eventually, you’ll have to go direct.  If you go indirect with the girl for too long, you will fall into the friend zone.  I will go direct with the girl within 5 to 10 minutes of the conversation, if I choose not to direct approach her since the start.

I usually go direct with the girl from the start because life’s short and there’s no point beating around the bush.

An example of a direct approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I know this sound really random, but I just notice you from over there and you are just way too cute.  I would regret it not coming over and say “Hi.”
2. Excuse me.  Hi, how are you doing?  I just saw you from over there and I have to come over and say “Hi”.  It’s actually against the law for me to not stop by and say that you’re the prettiest girl I’ve seen today.  My name is Nathan, what’s yours?

An example of an indirect approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I need to ask you a quick question, do you mind?  Can you please tell me where Pearl St. is?  The reason why I’m asking is because a friend of mine recommended this great restaurant on Pearl St. and I really wanted to check it out for myself.   Have you ever heard of a sushi restaurant called Sushi Den?
2. Excuse me.  I need a quick female opinion on something, do you mind?  I just recently notice this really attractive girl that I’d like to meet, but have no idea how to approach her.  Do you suggest that I approach her directly or indirectly?

With the indirect approach, after she answer your question, you can say, “Actually, I have to come over here and talk to you because…well, I just notice you from over there and there seems to be such a grace about you, and you know…you seem to really be my type.  What is your name?”

As you can see, as a guy we have to go direct and tell the girl that we want her.  If you don’t do it now, you will regret when you see her in some other guy’s arms.

And you don’t have to go direct every time you approach a girl.  It depends on the situation, which only you know.  Also, your level of confident during the approaching stage matters.

If she is too beautiful, sexy, high class, etc. and you’re afraid to go direct, approach her indirectly, then go direct within 5 to 10 minutes into the conversation.

If you’re in a good mood and feel confident, direct approach is the way to go.

Lastly, I have asked many girls if they prefer a guy to approach them directly or indirectly.  More than 90% of them say they prefer a guy to approach them directly.

The reason for this is, girls dress up to go out to meet guys, but they lack the confident to approach the guys.  Therefore, they would appreciate it if a guy can approach them directly.

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