Many men thinks they are afraid to approach women because of rejection or they just simply don’t know how to present themselves to the women, but there’s a greater fear that many don’t know about (evolutionarily speaking).

If you think about it, 5,000 years ago, there are not as many people as there are today.  An average tribe would often consist of 50 to 100 people at most.

Let’s say that 25% are too young for you, 25% are too old for you, 25% are men, and 25% are women.  But how many of those women are beautiful.

As you can see, the competition are high. But that’s still not the greater fear that I’m talking about.

The greater fear is what will happen to you after you approach the wrong woman and she rejected you?

The whole tribe only have about 25 women in total and women loves to gossip.  If you approaches a women and she rejected you, she will go and tell all her friends that you’re not preselected.  When that happens, no other woman in the tribe will consider you their mate.

Also, if you approach a beautiful woman and she happens to be the mate of a tribal leader, he and his friends will team up to kill you.  Notice how in the animal kingdom, one male will sleep with all the females within one tribe while the other males get none until the alpha male die or when he grew strong enough to become alpha male himself.

Of course, you can leave the tribe and go find another tribe, but that’s too risky.  5,000 years ago, you can easily die of hunger or be killed by other tribes if you ever leave your tribe.

And that, folks, is the greater fear that we’re experiencing when we’re approaching a beautiful woman.

Of course, the world have changed a lot, but can a couple of hundred of years of social conditioning defeat what have been hard wired into us after a couple of thousands of years of evolution.  I greatly doubt it.

“The Alpha Male” – In the animal kingdom, many species have a dominate male who have sex with all the females in the group, while the other males get none. The term “Alpha Male” as I used it here, basically means a leader. Everyone love a person who is comfortable in his/her own skin, and everyone loves a leader.

Alpha male characteristics are common to all natural leaders, and naturally confident men. Listed below are a few common traits of an “Alpha Male”; see which of these traits you lack and adjust your behavior accordingly.

1. Never Qualifies Himself - The Alpha Male doesn’t qualify himself to anyone because he don’t care. They don’t boast about their success because he don’t need to. He doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone.

You might think that the Alpha Male is self-centered, but that’s not the case.

Some people just care too much about what people think about them. In my opinion, as long as you showered daily and try to look decent, everything about you should be fine.

2. Talks Slow & Clear - Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone. When you talk fast, you are conveying that you are afraid that they won’t listen to you anymore.

Leaders often speak slowly and clearly because they want everyone to be able to hear and understand them.

When you talk too fast or too soft, you are showing a lack of confident. When you do this in front of a woman, you immediately show her that you are of lower status.

3. Comfortable in His Own Skin - Ultimately, the main trait of an Alpha Male is that he is comfortable in his own skin; and when you’re comfortable in your own skin, everything else will follow.

Comfortable in your own skin means being assertive enough to give your own opinion rather than jumping on the band wagon.

He chose to be himself rather than what others want him to be. He is happy and confident in any situation.

If he needs help, he’s not afraid to ask for it. And when he knows that someone needs help, he will voluntarily help them.

For example, if you’re at King Soopers looking at a model in a Low Rider magazine; don’t try to hide what you’re doing when someone walks by. This will only show your lack of confident and make you look weak.

Unless you’re doing something illegal, for example, trying to steal the magazine, you shouldn’t care. People’s just going to walk by and they don’t care about you checking out hot models from a magazine.

4. Enjoys a Challenge – Yielding to failure is definitely not an Alpha Male characteristics. It took Thomas Edison thousands of tries before he successfully invented the light bulb. He’s an example of an Alpha Male.

There are times when life can get a little rough on you. Life will push you around now and then without warning or apologies.

You will tell yourself, “no matter how many times I fall, I’ll get back up on my feet again because I’m an Alpha Male”.

5. The Ability to Lead a Group - If you can get people to willingly follow and respect you, then you are definitely an Alpha Male.

A leader have to think for his followers and lead them towards success because he knows that he cannot do everything by himself.

A leader knows how to bring out the best talents/skills from his peers. He’s not afraid to admit that he’s wrong and apologize for his mistake.

If you have all these characteristics, you are an Alpha Male. If you’re lacking a few characteristics, that’s fine; adjust your behavior accordingly.

Actually, women are everywhere, but the following are the more popular locations:

1.  Clubs - There are plenty of women in clubs, but I wouldn’t recommend this location.  First of all, women are on meat market in the club and have their defense system up way too high.  The clubs are too loud to have a conversation.  Most girls goes to clubs with their friends, and it’s hard to separate them, and you can’t seduce a girl while talking to a group.  Clubs are too dark; that beautiful girl that you picked up might not be so beautiful in daylight.

Note: Clubs are better left to the more experienced PUAs and guys who can dance.  When I go to club my main intention is to have fun and enjoy.  If you have girls on your mind every minute, you might not be enjoying yourself, and she’ll know.

2. The Mall - Girls love shopping, so the mall is a great location to meet them.  The mall is not loud like a club, which makes conversation possible.

3. College/University - Girls are all over college/university.  In my opinion, this is the easiest location to find and seduce a girl.

Note: It is rumored that college girls have fragile legs.  In other words, their legs are easy to spread; they want to meet a guy and have a relationship/sex.

4. The Park - I have seen so many beautiful girls at the park that it’ll be stupid to not try and pick one of them up.  Most of them are with friends, but there are few who are there alone.  Maybe she’s hoping that a guy will come along and pic her up.

5.  Everywhere - The truth is, beautiful girls/women are everywhere.  They are at Best Buy, buying ink for their printer, they are at McDonald buying a drink, they are working at a restaurant (please be respectful to girls/women while they are working), etc.

Note: The point is, you must be prepare when the woman of your dream come around.  It is recommended that you don’t try to be something that your not, but do yourself a favor and be prepared by having some canned openers to initiate a conversation.

The last thing you want is for the woman of your dream to walk by and you don’t want what to say. Most guys can start a conversation on the fly, but most can’t.

You just a girl that you like, but she said, “I already have a boyfriend”.

This is a though one to deal with because she may be telling the truth; she does have a boyfriend. But this shouldn’t stop you from going a little further.

Search has it, that a girl is single again within three months.

Besides, most girls just use the “I already have a boyfriend” line to test guys. If you quit too soon, you might be missing out.

Think about it, just because she have a boyfriend doesn’t mean that she will be with him forever. Even marriage end up in divorce.

You may be thinking to yourself, “But I don’t want to ruin a good relationship”. Well, if the girl is happy within her relationship with a guy, there’s no way that any other guy can break it. The question is, is she totally happy within her relationship?

So, the next time when a girl tell you that she already have a boyfriend, counter her statement with, “Oh, how does it feel to be in the perfect relationship?”

Note: I have asked this same question with a girl who told me she already have a boyfriend. It turns out that she and her boyfriend are having problems and they’re near the verge of separating.

I talked to her for a while and gave her my phone number. A few weeks later, she and her boyfriend broke up and she called me and ask if I have time to hang out. And as you already guessed, the rest is history.

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