Many men thinks they are afraid to approach women because of rejection or they just simply don’t know how to present themselves to the women, but there’s a greater fear that many don’t know about (evolutionarily speaking).

If you think about it, 5,000 years ago, there are not as many people as there are today.  An average tribe would often consist of 50 to 100 people at most.

Let’s say that 25% are too young for you, 25% are too old for you, 25% are men, and 25% are women.  But how many of those women are beautiful.

As you can see, the competition are high. But that’s still not the greater fear that I’m talking about.

The greater fear is what will happen to you after you approach the wrong woman and she rejected you?

The whole tribe only have about 25 women in total and women loves to gossip.  If you approaches a women and she rejected you, she will go and tell all her friends that you’re not preselected.  When that happens, no other woman in the tribe will consider you their mate.

Also, if you approach a beautiful woman and she happens to be the mate of a tribal leader, he and his friends will team up to kill you.  Notice how in the animal kingdom, one male will sleep with all the females within one tribe while the other males get none until the alpha male die or when he grew strong enough to become alpha male himself.

Of course, you can leave the tribe and go find another tribe, but that’s too risky.  5,000 years ago, you can easily die of hunger or be killed by other tribes if you ever leave your tribe.

And that, folks, is the greater fear that we’re experiencing when we’re approaching a beautiful woman.

Of course, the world have changed a lot, but can a couple of hundred of years of social conditioning defeat what have been hard wired into us after a couple of thousands of years of evolution.  I greatly doubt it.

Many guys are afraid to approached women even after all the techniques and canned openers that they learned because of one silly reason.  They don’t know what to do once they have the girl.

Most of them will say they want to make her his girlfriend, go on date with her, and finally have sex.  But are you sure?

This is a lesson about inner game. You might know all the techniques and canned openers, but you don’t have the confident to use them.

You might think that your greatest fear is rejection, but that is not true.  As human, we are rejected by other humans everyday for many reasons.

The greatest fear is not doing what do to once you get the girl.  You are actually afraid of getting the girl.

To overcome this fear, ask your the following questions:

1. What do I want to do with the girl after I get her?
2. Do I have what it takes to accomplish the thing that I wanted to do?

In other words, let’s say you want to have sex with her.  Do you have a seduction location?  It is best that you at least have your own place.  It can be a house or apartment.  And if it’s just for sex, why not just hire a prostitute?

You want her to be your girlfriend?  You do have time to date or just working your ass off to pay the bills.

Many dating coach will tell you that inner game is the key to dating success.  And this is true.  But just by telling yourself that you can do it, is not enough.

How do I improve my confidences?  Well, if you want to start a relationship as an adult, make sure you have your own place.  Living with your parents and having a healthy relationship is difficult.

So, you got the girl contact information and have built some comfort with her at the seduction location. But you were unable to have sex with her that day; now you wanted to meet her again, but doesn’t know where you should take her on the first date.

Well, there are plenty of good places as well as plenty of bad places to take a girl on the first date; these are 3 good locations:

1. Theme Park - Who doesn’t want to be at a place that is filled with laughter. Places such as Water World and Elitches Garden are perfect place to take a girl on a date.

Theme Parks are good choice for a date because there are so much you can do. If you run out of things to say (you shouldn’t be talking every second anyway), you can just go on a ride or take some pictures.

Also, girls crave excitement, but very few guys know this and took their girl to the movie or dinner for a date instead.

Note: If it’s winter and Water World and Elitches are not open, take the girl ice skating. If you don’t know how to ice skate, you two can learn together (but it’s best if you do, so you can teach her).

2. The Zoo - Every girl/woman I’ve met loves animals and the zoo have lots of them. This is a location where the two of you can walk around checking out the animals while finding out more about each other.

Having a conversation while walking around checking out animals and taking pictures is much more fun compared to talking over a meal at the restaurant.

In the restaurant situation, if you run out of things to say, all you can do is stare at each other; and that’s no fun.

Note: Movies and dinner is fine, but only when you already slept with the girl. Only after you have slept with the girl will you know her well enough to go on dates to places such as the movie theater or restaurant.

3. Hiking & Nature Walks - Local city, state or national parks almost always have hiking and nature trails. Throw some drinks or a lunch in a backpack and have fun.

Also, remember to bring along a camera to take some picture.

Everyone love to be outside on a beautiful day, unless you’re a vampire. Most girls never get the chance to do this.

Note: As you can tell, I’m a adventurous type of guy. Most of the stuff I like to do is outdoor, except for sex; I prefer to have sex indoor on a comfortable bed.

These type of dates are only my suggestions and might not work for everyone, but it does take away from the traditional dates; the movie and dinner at a nice restaurant. Women/Girls will thank you in their own special way for it.

Once, I took a girl to the zoo on our first date, and she told me that it’s the most adventurous place she’s been to on a date.

I mean, come on, the zoo? What does this tell you?

Well, what it tells me is that most guys are boring and take their girlfriend to boring places on their date(s). Like I said earlier, girls/women will thank you in their own special way for it.

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You just a girl that you like, but she said, “I already have a boyfriend”.

This is a though one to deal with because she may be telling the truth; she does have a boyfriend. But this shouldn’t stop you from going a little further.

Search has it, that a girl is single again within three months.

Besides, most girls just use the “I already have a boyfriend” line to test guys. If you quit too soon, you might be missing out.

Think about it, just because she have a boyfriend doesn’t mean that she will be with him forever. Even marriage end up in divorce.

You may be thinking to yourself, “But I don’t want to ruin a good relationship”. Well, if the girl is happy within her relationship with a guy, there’s no way that any other guy can break it. The question is, is she totally happy within her relationship?

So, the next time when a girl tell you that she already have a boyfriend, counter her statement with, “Oh, how does it feel to be in the perfect relationship?”

Note: I have asked this same question with a girl who told me she already have a boyfriend. It turns out that she and her boyfriend are having problems and they’re near the verge of separating.

I talked to her for a while and gave her my phone number. A few weeks later, she and her boyfriend broke up and she called me and ask if I have time to hang out. And as you already guessed, the rest is history.

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