I have recently wrote an article titled, “What Are Women Attracted to Anyway?“, which talks about how women are attracted to one thing and one thing only, and that’s survival value.

Today, the article is titled, “Why Are Men Attracted to Beautiful Women?“  And you guessed it.  Men are attracted to beautiful women because of survival value.

You asked, “But what does a beautiful women have anything to do with survival value? She can’t hunt for food or provide shelter for the family (today women can provide food and shelter for the family just as good or even better than men, but 5,000 years ago, I doubt it)”.

But beautiful women have a greater kind of survive value known as replication.  5,000 years ago, men can only help the current generation survive, but they can’t help the human specie survive.  People will grow old and die; it is the women who keep the human specie from extinction.

You said, “But women can give birth weather they’re beautiful or ugly“.

Yes, this is very true, but as human we always think that the better looking person are healthier than the ugly (or not good looking one) ones.  If a woman is beautiful, that means she’s healthier, and because she’s healthier, the baby who’s bored by her will also be healthier and have a better chance at surviving.

As a man, do you want your blood line to be carried on from generation to generation, don’t you?  You want your children to have a better chance at surviving and carrying on your blood line, and that’s why as men, we are attracted to beautiful women.

You say, “Well, just because she’s beautiful doesn’t means she’s healthier than a woman who is less attractive than her“.

Yes, this is very true, but more often than not, a beautiful women is healthier than a woman who is less attractive than her.

If you think about it, can a woman who doesn’t take care of herself (make up, exercise, dress up, etc.) be beautiful.  Even if she’s born with a naturally beautiful form, it can easily be ruin through bad habits (not exercising regularly).

Many men thinks they are afraid to approach women because of rejection or they just simply don’t know how to present themselves to the women, but there’s a greater fear that many don’t know about (evolutionarily speaking).

If you think about it, 5,000 years ago, there are not as many people as there are today.  An average tribe would often consist of 50 to 100 people at most.

Let’s say that 25% are too young for you, 25% are too old for you, 25% are men, and 25% are women.  But how many of those women are beautiful.

As you can see, the competition are high. But that’s still not the greater fear that I’m talking about.

The greater fear is what will happen to you after you approach the wrong woman and she rejected you?

The whole tribe only have about 25 women in total and women loves to gossip.  If you approaches a women and she rejected you, she will go and tell all her friends that you’re not preselected.  When that happens, no other woman in the tribe will consider you their mate.

Also, if you approach a beautiful woman and she happens to be the mate of a tribal leader, he and his friends will team up to kill you.  Notice how in the animal kingdom, one male will sleep with all the females within one tribe while the other males get none until the alpha male die or when he grew strong enough to become alpha male himself.

Of course, you can leave the tribe and go find another tribe, but that’s too risky.  5,000 years ago, you can easily die of hunger or be killed by other tribes if you ever leave your tribe.

And that, folks, is the greater fear that we’re experiencing when we’re approaching a beautiful woman.

Of course, the world have changed a lot, but can a couple of hundred of years of social conditioning defeat what have been hard wired into us after a couple of thousands of years of evolution.  I greatly doubt it.

Gamblers say they get more women, but that’s not true.  Gamblers only get women when they win money, therefore, it’s the money that gets the women.

But are women/girl really attracted to money?  I doubt it because some guys don’t have any money and they still gets women/girl.

So, what are women attracted to anyway?

In my experience, there’s only one thing that women are attracted to, and that’s men with social status/survival value.

There are people who committed suicide because of a sudden depression or blue, but the truth is everyone wants to survive.

By nature, women are the weaker sex.  And when you’re weak, it’s in your favor to align with someone who is strong enough to protect you or simply help you survive.

5,000 years ago, women are attracted to muscular men because these men can hunt and provide shelter.  Men without muscle (or simply weaker men) will find it harder to accomplish these tasks.

Today, the situation is different because we’re under the protect of laws and polices, therefore, you’ll find most women attracted to something else of high value, and that’s money.

With money you can hire muscular men to protect you as bodyguard and buy anything and everything you ever wanted.  Today, women are attracted to money because money can help them survive.

Therefore, people who say women are attracted to muscular men or money is all wrong.  They are attracted to one thing and one thing only, and that’s survival value.

As long as you can make her perceive you as valuable (in the survival sense), she’s yours for keep (or you can do with her anyway you want).

And the good news is you don’t have to have a lot of muscle or a lot money to be perceived as valuable in the eyes of a woman.

“The Alpha Male” – In the animal kingdom, many species have a dominate male who have sex with all the females in the group, while the other males get none. The term “Alpha Male” as I used it here, basically means a leader. Everyone love a person who is comfortable in his/her own skin, and everyone loves a leader.

Alpha male characteristics are common to all natural leaders, and naturally confident men. Listed below are a few common traits of an “Alpha Male”; see which of these traits you lack and adjust your behavior accordingly.

1. Never Qualifies Himself - The Alpha Male doesn’t qualify himself to anyone because he don’t care. They don’t boast about their success because he don’t need to. He doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone.

You might think that the Alpha Male is self-centered, but that’s not the case.

Some people just care too much about what people think about them. In my opinion, as long as you showered daily and try to look decent, everything about you should be fine.

2. Talks Slow & Clear - Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone. When you talk fast, you are conveying that you are afraid that they won’t listen to you anymore.

Leaders often speak slowly and clearly because they want everyone to be able to hear and understand them.

When you talk too fast or too soft, you are showing a lack of confident. When you do this in front of a woman, you immediately show her that you are of lower status.

3. Comfortable in His Own Skin - Ultimately, the main trait of an Alpha Male is that he is comfortable in his own skin; and when you’re comfortable in your own skin, everything else will follow.

Comfortable in your own skin means being assertive enough to give your own opinion rather than jumping on the band wagon.

He chose to be himself rather than what others want him to be. He is happy and confident in any situation.

If he needs help, he’s not afraid to ask for it. And when he knows that someone needs help, he will voluntarily help them.

For example, if you’re at King Soopers looking at a model in a Low Rider magazine; don’t try to hide what you’re doing when someone walks by. This will only show your lack of confident and make you look weak.

Unless you’re doing something illegal, for example, trying to steal the magazine, you shouldn’t care. People’s just going to walk by and they don’t care about you checking out hot models from a magazine.

4. Enjoys a Challenge – Yielding to failure is definitely not an Alpha Male characteristics. It took Thomas Edison thousands of tries before he successfully invented the light bulb. He’s an example of an Alpha Male.

There are times when life can get a little rough on you. Life will push you around now and then without warning or apologies.

You will tell yourself, “no matter how many times I fall, I’ll get back up on my feet again because I’m an Alpha Male”.

5. The Ability to Lead a Group - If you can get people to willingly follow and respect you, then you are definitely an Alpha Male.

A leader have to think for his followers and lead them towards success because he knows that he cannot do everything by himself.

A leader knows how to bring out the best talents/skills from his peers. He’s not afraid to admit that he’s wrong and apologize for his mistake.

If you have all these characteristics, you are an Alpha Male. If you’re lacking a few characteristics, that’s fine; adjust your behavior accordingly.

You saw a girl that you find attractive, but don’t know how to meet or start a conversation with her.

Don’t worry, you’re not alone.  About 99% of the guy (or people, in general) in the world are like that.

And you will be miles ahead of them in the dating game if you follow these 4 simple steps to meeting someone:

1.  Smile & Wave - A smile can take you a long way, but smiling alone isn’t enough, so add a little wave to it.  Look at the girl you want to meet from afar until she look up and make eye contact with you.

After you have established eye contact, smile and wave.  Make sure that she notice you checking her out.

A little smile and wave of the hand tells her that you are interested in meet and chat with her.

2.  Be the One Who Speaks First - The saying goes, “don’t wait around for someone to come along and love you, but instead, go out and find someone to love”.  If you’re a man, you have no choice but to follow this rule.

It have been said many times that women will not approach you (unless you’re a famous celebrity, such as Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt) .

It is a men’s job to take the first step.  Please don’t be a loser and do otherwise.

3. Work Your Chit-Chat Charm - What will two people who have never spoke before talk about when they first met?  The point is, because you just met, there’s so much to find out about each other that it seems silly when a guy say, “I don’t know what to talk about”.

The are many great subjects to talk about, but it’s best that you have some canned topics before you approach someone.  You’re topic can be anything from the weather to what’s the most fun place to get together.

It is best that you obtain some story telling skills because being able to tell an interesting story can take you a long way.  Girls love story.

4. Then…Stop Talking - It is a well know fact that girls like to talk about themselves or share their opinion on a subject (on second thought, who doesn’t).  It is a good idea to set up an open-ended question, shut up, and listen.

People, in general, aren’t used to having other people really listen to them, especially girls.  So, if you truly listen to what she have to say, you will win her over.

When asking a question, make sure that it’s an open-ended question, such as, “Do you think that men and women often misunderstand each other?”  This is definitely a women type question, and you will get some replies.

The question most guys ask is, “should I approach her directly or indirectly”.  Some dating coach will tell you that guys should approach a indirectly, but some will tell you that direct is the way to go.  So, which is better?

From my perspective, eventually, you’ll have to go direct.  If you go indirect with the girl for too long, you will fall into the friend zone.  I will go direct with the girl within 5 to 10 minutes of the conversation, if I choose not to direct approach her since the start.

I usually go direct with the girl from the start because life’s short and there’s no point beating around the bush.

An example of a direct approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I know this sound really random, but I just notice you from over there and you are just way too cute.  I would regret it not coming over and say “Hi.”
2. Excuse me.  Hi, how are you doing?  I just saw you from over there and I have to come over and say “Hi”.  It’s actually against the law for me to not stop by and say that you’re the prettiest girl I’ve seen today.  My name is Nathan, what’s yours?

An example of an indirect approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I need to ask you a quick question, do you mind?  Can you please tell me where Pearl St. is?  The reason why I’m asking is because a friend of mine recommended this great restaurant on Pearl St. and I really wanted to check it out for myself.   Have you ever heard of a sushi restaurant called Sushi Den?
2. Excuse me.  I need a quick female opinion on something, do you mind?  I just recently notice this really attractive girl that I’d like to meet, but have no idea how to approach her.  Do you suggest that I approach her directly or indirectly?

With the indirect approach, after she answer your question, you can say, “Actually, I have to come over here and talk to you because…well, I just notice you from over there and there seems to be such a grace about you, and you know…you seem to really be my type.  What is your name?”

As you can see, as a guy we have to go direct and tell the girl that we want her.  If you don’t do it now, you will regret when you see her in some other guy’s arms.

And you don’t have to go direct every time you approach a girl.  It depends on the situation, which only you know.  Also, your level of confident during the approaching stage matters.

If she is too beautiful, sexy, high class, etc. and you’re afraid to go direct, approach her indirectly, then go direct within 5 to 10 minutes into the conversation.

If you’re in a good mood and feel confident, direct approach is the way to go.

Lastly, I have asked many girls if they prefer a guy to approach them directly or indirectly.  More than 90% of them say they prefer a guy to approach them directly.

The reason for this is, girls dress up to go out to meet guys, but they lack the confident to approach the guys.  Therefore, they would appreciate it if a guy can approach them directly.

Many guys are afraid to approached women even after all the techniques and canned openers that they learned because of one silly reason.  They don’t know what to do once they have the girl.

Most of them will say they want to make her his girlfriend, go on date with her, and finally have sex.  But are you sure?

This is a lesson about inner game. You might know all the techniques and canned openers, but you don’t have the confident to use them.

You might think that your greatest fear is rejection, but that is not true.  As human, we are rejected by other humans everyday for many reasons.

The greatest fear is not doing what do to once you get the girl.  You are actually afraid of getting the girl.

To overcome this fear, ask your the following questions:

1. What do I want to do with the girl after I get her?
2. Do I have what it takes to accomplish the thing that I wanted to do?

In other words, let’s say you want to have sex with her.  Do you have a seduction location?  It is best that you at least have your own place.  It can be a house or apartment.  And if it’s just for sex, why not just hire a prostitute?

You want her to be your girlfriend?  You do have time to date or just working your ass off to pay the bills.

Many dating coach will tell you that inner game is the key to dating success.  And this is true.  But just by telling yourself that you can do it, is not enough.

How do I improve my confidences?  Well, if you want to start a relationship as an adult, make sure you have your own place.  Living with your parents and having a healthy relationship is difficult.

In a guy’s life, we have seen so many beautiful girls that we wish to have.  But because these girls are so beautiful, we usually think to ourselves, “she is too good for me, or she’ll never like me”.

After thinking these useless thoughts for awhile, we decided to give up and move on with regrets.

This is just some thing for every guy out there to think about:

1. Have you not seen a beautiful girl with an average guy who is uglier than her, who is shorter than her, who is more stupid than her, etc?
2. If every guy think that a beautiful woman is so unapproachable, does that make her lonely?

No matter how beautiful a woman is, she still needs a man.  Some of them have girlfriends to hangout with and some claim to be bi-sexual, but ultimately these women need and want a man.

And when she’s with her man, she will have sex with him.  When they have sex, she will spread her legs for him and say, “Oh, your cock is so big, please fuck me, yes, please fuck me”.  No matter how beautiful a woman is, she will do these sexual things to please her man.

The only question is, “How can that guy be me?”

Too many guys goes online to learn about meeting and attracting women, but that’s all they do.

There are thousands of tactics and techniques to seducing women out there that you can’t learn it all in a life time, but these guys never understand that.

So, what’s the point of learning all these great techniques to meeting and seducing women is all you do is sit home? You’re right, it’s pointless and a waste of time.

If you really want to be successful with women, you have to interact with them more; and you can’t do this in front of a computer reading tutorials like these.

What you need to do is learn what you can, than go out and use them and see the results in real life. Over time, you should become better because you are going out and trying these techniques.

This site and others will always here your reference to go back to when you suddenly forgot something.

But the point is for you to go out weekly and meet new women, because as the saying goes, “Reading a thousand books does not equal a mile journey” (or something like; and if you know the correct way to say it, please let me know so I can update).

So, you got the girl contact information and have built some comfort with her at the seduction location. But you were unable to have sex with her that day; now you wanted to meet her again, but doesn’t know where you should take her on the first date.

Well, there are plenty of good places as well as plenty of bad places to take a girl on the first date; these are 3 good locations:

1. Theme Park - Who doesn’t want to be at a place that is filled with laughter. Places such as Water World and Elitches Garden are perfect place to take a girl on a date.

Theme Parks are good choice for a date because there are so much you can do. If you run out of things to say (you shouldn’t be talking every second anyway), you can just go on a ride or take some pictures.

Also, girls crave excitement, but very few guys know this and took their girl to the movie or dinner for a date instead.

Note: If it’s winter and Water World and Elitches are not open, take the girl ice skating. If you don’t know how to ice skate, you two can learn together (but it’s best if you do, so you can teach her).

2. The Zoo - Every girl/woman I’ve met loves animals and the zoo have lots of them. This is a location where the two of you can walk around checking out the animals while finding out more about each other.

Having a conversation while walking around checking out animals and taking pictures is much more fun compared to talking over a meal at the restaurant.

In the restaurant situation, if you run out of things to say, all you can do is stare at each other; and that’s no fun.

Note: Movies and dinner is fine, but only when you already slept with the girl. Only after you have slept with the girl will you know her well enough to go on dates to places such as the movie theater or restaurant.

3. Hiking & Nature Walks - Local city, state or national parks almost always have hiking and nature trails. Throw some drinks or a lunch in a backpack and have fun.

Also, remember to bring along a camera to take some picture.

Everyone love to be outside on a beautiful day, unless you’re a vampire. Most girls never get the chance to do this.

Note: As you can tell, I’m a adventurous type of guy. Most of the stuff I like to do is outdoor, except for sex; I prefer to have sex indoor on a comfortable bed.

These type of dates are only my suggestions and might not work for everyone, but it does take away from the traditional dates; the movie and dinner at a nice restaurant. Women/Girls will thank you in their own special way for it.

Once, I took a girl to the zoo on our first date, and she told me that it’s the most adventurous place she’s been to on a date.

I mean, come on, the zoo? What does this tell you?

Well, what it tells me is that most guys are boring and take their girlfriend to boring places on their date(s). Like I said earlier, girls/women will thank you in their own special way for it.

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