One thing that I often see guys do to get attention and raise their value in a clubbing environment is what I called “The Peacock Walk-Through“.

The peacock walk-through is when a guy dress up in something outrageous such as wearing a really tall hat or dress like an outer space creature.

This worked really well because it really grabs the women attention, but the question is are the women paying attention to the actually man wearing the outrageous costume or are they looking because the way he dress is so weird that everyone will look.  In other words, he’s just a clown and clowns don’t get laid.

Unless it’s a Halloween party don’t dress up in something so outrageously crazy.  The women will look, but they’ll be like, “Oh, he’s just wearing a silly costumes.”

You say, “Okay, but do you have any better ways to help raise a men social status in a club?”

There are a handful of ways for a man to raise his social status in a club, but the one that I often use is called “The Hand Touch“.  This is really easy to put into action.

In a nutshell, when I enter a club I will walk from one end of the club  to the other and as I walk I will touch as many women hands within my reach as I can.  I’m not grabbing their hands, but rather, just tapping the back of it.

The effect is these women will look to see who just touched them.  And when one woman look, her group of friends will want to look as well.  They wants to know what their friends are looking at.

In other words, I just entered the club and women are checking me out left and right as I walked pass them.  Sounds crazy, but it’ll help raise your value dramatically.  It’ll give you that celebrity feel.  And remember to dress up nice, just don’t stand out like a peacock.

I have recently wrote an article titled, “What Are Women Attracted to Anyway?“, which talks about how women are attracted to one thing and one thing only, and that’s survival value.

Today, the article is titled, “Why Are Men Attracted to Beautiful Women?“  And you guessed it.  Men are attracted to beautiful women because of survival value.

You asked, “But what does a beautiful women have anything to do with survival value? She can’t hunt for food or provide shelter for the family (today women can provide food and shelter for the family just as good or even better than men, but 5,000 years ago, I doubt it)”.

But beautiful women have a greater kind of survive value known as replication.  5,000 years ago, men can only help the current generation survive, but they can’t help the human specie survive.  People will grow old and die; it is the women who keep the human specie from extinction.

You said, “But women can give birth weather they’re beautiful or ugly“.

Yes, this is very true, but as human we always think that the better looking person are healthier than the ugly (or not good looking one) ones.  If a woman is beautiful, that means she’s healthier, and because she’s healthier, the baby who’s bored by her will also be healthier and have a better chance at surviving.

As a man, do you want your blood line to be carried on from generation to generation, don’t you?  You want your children to have a better chance at surviving and carrying on your blood line, and that’s why as men, we are attracted to beautiful women.

You say, “Well, just because she’s beautiful doesn’t means she’s healthier than a woman who is less attractive than her“.

Yes, this is very true, but more often than not, a beautiful women is healthier than a woman who is less attractive than her.

If you think about it, can a woman who doesn’t take care of herself (make up, exercise, dress up, etc.) be beautiful.  Even if she’s born with a naturally beautiful form, it can easily be ruin through bad habits (not exercising regularly).

Many men thinks they are afraid to approach women because of rejection or they just simply don’t know how to present themselves to the women, but there’s a greater fear that many don’t know about (evolutionarily speaking).

If you think about it, 5,000 years ago, there are not as many people as there are today.  An average tribe would often consist of 50 to 100 people at most.

Let’s say that 25% are too young for you, 25% are too old for you, 25% are men, and 25% are women.  But how many of those women are beautiful.

As you can see, the competition are high. But that’s still not the greater fear that I’m talking about.

The greater fear is what will happen to you after you approach the wrong woman and she rejected you?

The whole tribe only have about 25 women in total and women loves to gossip.  If you approaches a women and she rejected you, she will go and tell all her friends that you’re not preselected.  When that happens, no other woman in the tribe will consider you their mate.

Also, if you approach a beautiful woman and she happens to be the mate of a tribal leader, he and his friends will team up to kill you.  Notice how in the animal kingdom, one male will sleep with all the females within one tribe while the other males get none until the alpha male die or when he grew strong enough to become alpha male himself.

Of course, you can leave the tribe and go find another tribe, but that’s too risky.  5,000 years ago, you can easily die of hunger or be killed by other tribes if you ever leave your tribe.

And that, folks, is the greater fear that we’re experiencing when we’re approaching a beautiful woman.

Of course, the world have changed a lot, but can a couple of hundred of years of social conditioning defeat what have been hard wired into us after a couple of thousands of years of evolution.  I greatly doubt it.

Gamblers say they get more women, but that’s not true.  Gamblers only get women when they win money, therefore, it’s the money that gets the women.

But are women/girl really attracted to money?  I doubt it because some guys don’t have any money and they still gets women/girl.

So, what are women attracted to anyway?

In my experience, there’s only one thing that women are attracted to, and that’s men with social status/survival value.

There are people who committed suicide because of a sudden depression or blue, but the truth is everyone wants to survive.

By nature, women are the weaker sex.  And when you’re weak, it’s in your favor to align with someone who is strong enough to protect you or simply help you survive.

5,000 years ago, women are attracted to muscular men because these men can hunt and provide shelter.  Men without muscle (or simply weaker men) will find it harder to accomplish these tasks.

Today, the situation is different because we’re under the protect of laws and polices, therefore, you’ll find most women attracted to something else of high value, and that’s money.

With money you can hire muscular men to protect you as bodyguard and buy anything and everything you ever wanted.  Today, women are attracted to money because money can help them survive.

Therefore, people who say women are attracted to muscular men or money is all wrong.  They are attracted to one thing and one thing only, and that’s survival value.

As long as you can make her perceive you as valuable (in the survival sense), she’s yours for keep (or you can do with her anyway you want).

And the good news is you don’t have to have a lot of muscle or a lot money to be perceived as valuable in the eyes of a woman.

Social proof is very important in the dating/picking up girls game.  If you ever gone to the playboy mansion party you’ll notice that there are so many popular movie star and singers, but all the beautiful girls will stick to Hugh Hefner.  This is because it’s his party and he’s social proof.

And today, I’ll show you a tactic that you can use to become social proof in a bar (or anywhere, as long as you can make this tactic seem natural).

#1. Approach a Beautiful Woman

Walk up to the most beautiful woman/girl in the bar (or anywhere) that everyone is looking at and start talking to her.

You asked, “But what if she rejected me?”

She won’t reject you, because you’re not hitting on her.  Please, let me explain.

#2. Disqualify Yourself

You will approach her and ask the following question, “Excuse, I have a quick question do you mind?  it’s just going to be a moment.  I have a girlfriend and her style is very simpler to your style.  I wanted to know what would be a good gift for her.  I hope you can help me.

No one woman/girl will reject you after you’ve said something similar to that.  Her protective shield is totally down because you said you already have a girlfriend.  You can’t be hitting on her if you already have a girlfriend, can you?

#3. Make Eye Contact & Wave to Another Girl

While you’re talking to the beautiful girl, look around over her shoulder and find a hot girl.  After you’ve found one that you like, make eye contact and wave at her (you’re doing this while talking to the beautiful girl).

If the hot girl doesn’t wave back, that’s okay because you can be waving to anyone.  This should not create any awkward moment for you.

After successfully making eye contact and waving to the hot girl, you will say to the beautiful girl, “Excuse me, I just saw a friend over there.  I’m going to go say “hi” really quick, but I’ll be back”.

#4. Approach the Hot Girl

You will now approach the hot girl, but with the beautiful girl watching you.  And you don’t have to believe it, but no hot girl is going to reject you if you’re approaching her with a beautiful girl watching you and waiting for your return.

Basically, the most beautiful woman in the bar have pre-selected you.  Now, you’ll have the social proof to approach anyone and everyone, and be accepted.

I have a very beautiful female friend that recently told me that she’s feeling lonely because she haven’t been dating anyone for so long.  Does this make you think of anything?

The truth is most beautiful women these days are single and will want to go on a date with you; all you have to do is ask.  Yes, it’s really that easy, but most guys just keep on making excuse and just sit at home learning about how to attract the women of their dream.  Isn’t that just stupid?

I’ve been to a few seminars (the seminars were great and I’ve learned a lot) related to picking up and seducing women myself because I was once an average frustrated chump just like you.

And in these seminars the dating coach mentioned how women are more attracted to bad boys because they want to tame the bad boys.  The only problem is most of the guys in the room are in their late 20s or early 30s.  I doubt these guys want to pickup and seduce girls that are 16-20 years old (it’ll be gross if they do).

What I meant by that is women are only naughty and wild when they’re young (not all, but most).  Most women older than 25 years old whom I talked to told me that they want a stable relationship with a man.  They are no longer as attracted to that stupid and wild boy that they once were.

I think dating coaches are putting women on a pedestal when they teach guys are these gimmick on how to get the girl.  The only problem is by the time the guy is ready the girl is already too old or married to some other guy.

“The Alpha Male” – In the animal kingdom, many species have a dominate male who have sex with all the females in the group, while the other males get none. The term “Alpha Male” as I used it here, basically means a leader. Everyone love a person who is comfortable in his/her own skin, and everyone loves a leader.

Alpha male characteristics are common to all natural leaders, and naturally confident men. Listed below are a few common traits of an “Alpha Male”; see which of these traits you lack and adjust your behavior accordingly.

1. Never Qualifies Himself - The Alpha Male doesn’t qualify himself to anyone because he don’t care. They don’t boast about their success because he don’t need to. He doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone.

You might think that the Alpha Male is self-centered, but that’s not the case.

Some people just care too much about what people think about them. In my opinion, as long as you showered daily and try to look decent, everything about you should be fine.

2. Talks Slow & Clear - Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone. When you talk fast, you are conveying that you are afraid that they won’t listen to you anymore.

Leaders often speak slowly and clearly because they want everyone to be able to hear and understand them.

When you talk too fast or too soft, you are showing a lack of confident. When you do this in front of a woman, you immediately show her that you are of lower status.

3. Comfortable in His Own Skin - Ultimately, the main trait of an Alpha Male is that he is comfortable in his own skin; and when you’re comfortable in your own skin, everything else will follow.

Comfortable in your own skin means being assertive enough to give your own opinion rather than jumping on the band wagon.

He chose to be himself rather than what others want him to be. He is happy and confident in any situation.

If he needs help, he’s not afraid to ask for it. And when he knows that someone needs help, he will voluntarily help them.

For example, if you’re at King Soopers looking at a model in a Low Rider magazine; don’t try to hide what you’re doing when someone walks by. This will only show your lack of confident and make you look weak.

Unless you’re doing something illegal, for example, trying to steal the magazine, you shouldn’t care. People’s just going to walk by and they don’t care about you checking out hot models from a magazine.

4. Enjoys a Challenge – Yielding to failure is definitely not an Alpha Male characteristics. It took Thomas Edison thousands of tries before he successfully invented the light bulb. He’s an example of an Alpha Male.

There are times when life can get a little rough on you. Life will push you around now and then without warning or apologies.

You will tell yourself, “no matter how many times I fall, I’ll get back up on my feet again because I’m an Alpha Male”.

5. The Ability to Lead a Group - If you can get people to willingly follow and respect you, then you are definitely an Alpha Male.

A leader have to think for his followers and lead them towards success because he knows that he cannot do everything by himself.

A leader knows how to bring out the best talents/skills from his peers. He’s not afraid to admit that he’s wrong and apologize for his mistake.

If you have all these characteristics, you are an Alpha Male. If you’re lacking a few characteristics, that’s fine; adjust your behavior accordingly.

You saw a girl that you find attractive, but don’t know how to meet or start a conversation with her.

Don’t worry, you’re not alone.  About 99% of the guy (or people, in general) in the world are like that.

And you will be miles ahead of them in the dating game if you follow these 4 simple steps to meeting someone:

1.  Smile & Wave - A smile can take you a long way, but smiling alone isn’t enough, so add a little wave to it.  Look at the girl you want to meet from afar until she look up and make eye contact with you.

After you have established eye contact, smile and wave.  Make sure that she notice you checking her out.

A little smile and wave of the hand tells her that you are interested in meet and chat with her.

2.  Be the One Who Speaks First - The saying goes, “don’t wait around for someone to come along and love you, but instead, go out and find someone to love”.  If you’re a man, you have no choice but to follow this rule.

It have been said many times that women will not approach you (unless you’re a famous celebrity, such as Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt) .

It is a men’s job to take the first step.  Please don’t be a loser and do otherwise.

3. Work Your Chit-Chat Charm - What will two people who have never spoke before talk about when they first met?  The point is, because you just met, there’s so much to find out about each other that it seems silly when a guy say, “I don’t know what to talk about”.

The are many great subjects to talk about, but it’s best that you have some canned topics before you approach someone.  You’re topic can be anything from the weather to what’s the most fun place to get together.

It is best that you obtain some story telling skills because being able to tell an interesting story can take you a long way.  Girls love story.

4. Then…Stop Talking - It is a well know fact that girls like to talk about themselves or share their opinion on a subject (on second thought, who doesn’t).  It is a good idea to set up an open-ended question, shut up, and listen.

People, in general, aren’t used to having other people really listen to them, especially girls.  So, if you truly listen to what she have to say, you will win her over.

When asking a question, make sure that it’s an open-ended question, such as, “Do you think that men and women often misunderstand each other?”  This is definitely a women type question, and you will get some replies.

“Is it better to approach a woman during the day or the night”, Johnny asked.

The Seducer reply, “It’s always better to approach during the day”.

A few dating coach will tell you that the club is a great way to meet woman because there are so many of them.  It’s true that there are many women who goes to club to meet guys, but it’s too difficult to approach in a club.

Approaching woman in a bar I can understand, but a club is just too loud.  Another drawback is, you can’t see the girl’s face clearly.  Some of them might not look as good as they do in daylight.

This is something I want you to think about:

1. How would you feel if someone approach you during the day at the park, the mall, the street, etc. and say that you are attractive and they want to get to know you?

Girls are on meat market when they are at clubs or just by going out at night.  They always stick close to their girlfriends or is going with boyfriends.

I’m not say that it’s impossible to approach during the night, but approaching during the day is must easier for someone starting out.

The question most guys ask is, “should I approach her directly or indirectly”.  Some dating coach will tell you that guys should approach a indirectly, but some will tell you that direct is the way to go.  So, which is better?

From my perspective, eventually, you’ll have to go direct.  If you go indirect with the girl for too long, you will fall into the friend zone.  I will go direct with the girl within 5 to 10 minutes of the conversation, if I choose not to direct approach her since the start.

I usually go direct with the girl from the start because life’s short and there’s no point beating around the bush.

An example of a direct approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I know this sound really random, but I just notice you from over there and you are just way too cute.  I would regret it not coming over and say “Hi.”
2. Excuse me.  Hi, how are you doing?  I just saw you from over there and I have to come over and say “Hi”.  It’s actually against the law for me to not stop by and say that you’re the prettiest girl I’ve seen today.  My name is Nathan, what’s yours?

An example of an indirect approach would be something like this:

1. Excuse me.  I need to ask you a quick question, do you mind?  Can you please tell me where Pearl St. is?  The reason why I’m asking is because a friend of mine recommended this great restaurant on Pearl St. and I really wanted to check it out for myself.   Have you ever heard of a sushi restaurant called Sushi Den?
2. Excuse me.  I need a quick female opinion on something, do you mind?  I just recently notice this really attractive girl that I’d like to meet, but have no idea how to approach her.  Do you suggest that I approach her directly or indirectly?

With the indirect approach, after she answer your question, you can say, “Actually, I have to come over here and talk to you because…well, I just notice you from over there and there seems to be such a grace about you, and you know…you seem to really be my type.  What is your name?”

As you can see, as a guy we have to go direct and tell the girl that we want her.  If you don’t do it now, you will regret when you see her in some other guy’s arms.

And you don’t have to go direct every time you approach a girl.  It depends on the situation, which only you know.  Also, your level of confident during the approaching stage matters.

If she is too beautiful, sexy, high class, etc. and you’re afraid to go direct, approach her indirectly, then go direct within 5 to 10 minutes into the conversation.

If you’re in a good mood and feel confident, direct approach is the way to go.

Lastly, I have asked many girls if they prefer a guy to approach them directly or indirectly.  More than 90% of them say they prefer a guy to approach them directly.

The reason for this is, girls dress up to go out to meet guys, but they lack the confident to approach the guys.  Therefore, they would appreciate it if a guy can approach them directly.