The art of eye contact is not addressed enough.
So many guys spend all their time trying to come up with the perfect thing to say.
But it’s important to remember that our eyes are conveying plenty.
Your Eye Contact is Creeping Her Out
If our vocal cords produce words that are James Bond smooth but our eyes say weirdo (a sort of anxious or off energy), then your approach will feel unpleasant for her at the emotional level.
Consequently, she’ll reject you before you even had a chance to say a single word.
She’ll stand their waiting for you to run your spiel, merely tolerating your presence. But she’d have already decided by then.
It’s not even a personal thing. But whatever it was that you were emitting at that particular moment in time made her feel uncomfortable.
And so if her first sample of you upon meeting consists of uncomfortable feelings, then she will have no choice but to associate you with negative feelings.
Every human being wants to experience more positive feelings and less negative feelings.
If you put a woman off because you made her uncomfortable upon meeting, don’t take it personally if she wants nothing to do with you.
I don’t blame her.
Any normal human would want to do the same if they were on the receiving end.
Fortunately, this is something that you can work on!
Mastering Seductive Eye Contact
Seductive eye contact has a proper balance of empathy and sexual desire.
If your eye contact consists of purely animalistic desire without any sense of empathy or respect for the woman in front of you, she will be creeped out! Unsafe.
If your energy is only empathy without the sort penetrative sexual desire, then she won’t feel much desire in return either.
It’s definitely a balancing but if you pay close attention you’ll start to see the difference and hopefully make adjustments.
Bryan and Natalie from TheFearlessMan demonstrate this concept pretty clearly. I highly suggest watching their video if you want to get a glimpse into why eye contact matters so much. Additionally, Natalie explains how she feels when Bryan is making different forms of eye contact. The awesome part is Bryan explains exactly what he does to achieve the seductive eye contact that women love. You don’t want to miss this one!